I know that I have really blogged on so many Learning Disability issues on my own kids, I guess I need to reflect on all the "unusual" incidents that have keep me writing, I must say there have been some good occurrences that I hope give guidance and optimism to other people. As I have said many times, having children with disabilities is a very difficult situation, especially learning disabilities. There really isn't a lot of documented history on what happens to children and really, nothing that gives hope for parents. Sometimes this is very discouraging, but if we write, tell each other different things that happen to our children it can lessen the feeling of disillusion.
My son was not doing well in the being of 2015, but I was determined to figure it out and help him. I am by no means, a doctor, psychiatrist or therapist, but I am his Mom and I know him. He was 13 and growing at a Teen rate. Know that with all these emotional and physical changes so changes the disabilities! He was not doing well at school, his pediatrician increased his medications, this seemed to do the trick but you know I really was not keen on this. I brought him to a psychiatrist. He was at an age where someone really knowledgeable in these drugs needed to evaluate him. I had him tested by a psychologist and had her evaluate him in school. I know this is not monetarily feasible to most, but I begged borrowed and got the money to do this. This was the best dollars I ever spent on my son. This wonderful person saw him in his classroom, talked to him and put a plan in place for him. We met with his school ( private) and they helped implement them. I cannot tell you how well he is doing. Then with the monthly trips to the psychiatrist, he has brought down his medications and he feels good. A very positive year of learning, on my part and my son's. Always question, always look for more, it's there and people will guide you.
For my daughter, I wish love, good vibrations and a hope that she can continue to do well in school and find herself. My daughter is 19, she has a year of college under her belt, but she was looking and found a person with which she married. As parents this was not our wish for her now! But this person asked her to marry him because he is in the service and was moving. The service will take care of her and give her an education, so, I'm hoping that she can find what she is looking for and still educate herself. She knows she will always need medications, she will always need a therapist, We, as parents, only hope that all the tools we gave our children, fought for our children are embedded in there brains, and at some point they pull them up and use them. My daughter is extremely strong willed, she does want to succeed, but awww that young love. We have all experienced it and it took her. My wish for her is to find the person she really is, make sure she's educated so she can always survive and look at life as a journey. A journey that is exciting and can be the greatest gift we all have. Oh yes there are up and downs, but each one of us has a journey that gets us to the pinnacle of why we are here.
I have always looked at my children's disabilities as gifts. Yes, gifts, they have to try harder, climb the mountain in a different way, but in the end those difficulties are what they teach us. They teach us that no matter what hurtle, it's not surmountable! We can do it, they will do it and prove to each of us that they have the courage we taught them to have.
Let's see what 2016 brings!
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